Why People Withhold Support From Chosen Ones

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There is something called identity insecurity comparison, fear of displacement, control or that discomfort of watching someone else rise when you're at the same level. Some people can handle the potential that you speak of better than the actual progress. As long as your greatness is just 

In regular conversation, they may feel safe. The moment your growth becomes visible and respected by other people, they have this internalized withdrawal. It’s as if support becomes expensive to them. 

So before you wonder why someone can't help you, check their life if there is any type of stagnation or if they always want attention. Some people like you when you  need advice, when you need validation, or when you were beneath them socially, in their mind, but support is dangerous to these people because they have this thought process that if they help you grow, you may outgrow them. 

Ask yourself Why will they help you outgrow them? If you are in a work environment, a workplace, an organization or a business group, And you know people are aware of your potential, remember. These are high competition places. If you find out the people close to you, delay opportunities like you would hear information from a distant party before you hear from someone  in the same department as you. They gate keep information that you have to hear outside of the group before you hear from them. They will ignore your messages at sensitive moments, refuse introduction with people of high status that they are connected to. 

They will be in a business gathering or a retreat and they know that if they introduce you to certain persons you see them kicking, laughing with these people. And you tell them um babe, could you introduce me to your friend, I think he will be interested in this business idea, they may agree just to avoid conflict, but when it's time to introduce you to them, they are quiet, or they might minimize your work jokingly. act supportive in public. 

This is not because they don't see your value,  because they do. They want to be above you. They want to be more successful. They want to maintain their perceived higher statues. So they wanted to maintain that status of been connected with those people, so they will not want to introduce you. And they just want to keep everything like that, trying to suppress you.

they didn't want to support you because supporting you might lead to your success. They saw your potential, they know that you have it in you. They know you could accomplish anything you put your mind to and they don’t want to be the reason why you become more successful. And this is why they never supported you. 

There is something about doing what you said you will do repeatedly and becoming who you said you will be. It's rattles bad spirit within people. They love the aspiring version of you, your transformation challenges something in them. It's almost like disrespect. how dare you be ambitious, how dare you try to surpass me. but you will. 

helping you succeed may require them to try to open doors for you or sharing their networks with you or recommending you to people or teaching your skills, validating your knowledge. 

you cannot get this from people around you in your workplace environments, in your business group. These things that you seek of, that support will not come from people in that circle. 

if you are successful in meeting healthy people, to them, this can be a form of generosity, they are willing and happy to contribute in what will make you be who you are, it’s more or less their divine purpose to help you. There are people God places in your life at strategic moments to help to climb to the next step, these people will never feel threatened by you. It's a form of happiness for them, they are simply fulfilling their own destiny, 

but to insecure people, but I would prefer to say they are not positioned for you, this feels like losing the spotlight and creating competition. It feels like you are reducing their uniqueness. like they are trying to empower someone who will surpass them. 

So instead of directly opposing you, or indirectly telling you that they cannot do something, they will become more passive, more unavailable, more forgetful, vague and consistent or emotionally distant. 

and another thing, some people only feel safe around struggling people. This is like a deep psychological thing. there are some people who build their identity about helping people or about being the smartest people that other people go to for advice or being the successful one or being chosen one. it's like a grandiose sense of self. But when they see a real chosen one, your elevation destabilizes the internal hierarchy. So unconsciously they may resist anything that will accelerate your growth.

 Not always through physical or spiritual attack. Sometimes they just try to triangulate you or distant you from people that will help you or say negative things to people that will help you. That's like an indirect sabotage

When you hear statements like, we'll see or don't rush me, maybe later. Or they're just completely silence when you  try to engage in a progressive action. when you are excited about something that  you've decided upon and has a lot of potential there is this lack of enthusiasm, they're not happy with you. Sometimes they look at you crazy. like, do you know what you're doing? This is just to diminish you. And then during your big celebration season, or promotion, they're way to be found. 

When you have someone around you that withhold useful information that they easily share with others and you you're wondering like, why would they hide that from me, but tell someone else, and I get to hear about this from that other person that I barely speak,  then you find out that the person close to you is actually the same person that told that other person that you don't speak to. These are not coincidence or just mere forgetfulness. So you have to be able to discern these patterns,

Joseph brothers recognized his potential before the world did. His dreams revealed his elevation. And what the people around him do, they withdrew support, they mocked him, sabotaged him and attempted to eliminate him. Why? Because they internally understood that if this person rises, our current position changes. 

People often resist what threatens their internal ranking system. 

 

So note this:

So they will never encourage you, They will never give you financial support or financial advice. They wouldn’t even want to encourage you. They wouldn’t want to give you any ideas at all. because they want you right where you are m. They want the identity to remain unrecognized because hey felt threatened by you. You made them feel insecure. You made them feel less because they saw you were very talented and very gifted and very intelligent. They knew you had the potential to become very successful. So they did not want to be one of the reasons why you become successful. They did everything they could do withhold any support and they wanted you to feel like you had no one. They wanted everything to remain the same way because their laziness will not let them dream and execute the way you do. 

They don't like the change that you might bring with your success. Imagine getting to a level or getting to a successful level in a workplace environment and you are the reason why things change in the environment. Some of these people in these work environments do not even change. and so to them, you wear a symbol of change. You were the one that was always evolving. So every time they saw you, something changed about you. Your energy seemed different. It seemed like you changed every time they saw you and they did not like that. They make this up in their mind. 

This is why they didn't want to see you win, and this is why they never support you.

If you want to know if people you are associated with or you choose to associate with, you measure them based on willingness to see you grow. 

When you are in a workplace environment and you know what you carry, you know you are gifted. don't ever assume that when someone is complimenting you, they walk up to you and say, oh, they like your dress, they  like your shoes, they compliment you on a daily basis, there is this emotional closeness to you. They want to know what you have going on in your life. They engage with you based on your shared history and based on your shared trauma, or whatever it is, this is not always a measurement of a good, healthy relationship. What you should do is measure them by willingness to see you advance, consistency during good times , openness with opportunities and emotional response to your winnings. A person's reaction to your elevation reveals more than their words.